Having clarity, confidence and commitment, around being true and authentic, is the basis for Mastering our Motivations.
Regardless of who we are – our background, education, profession, religion, race or creed – we are all motivated by the same force that drives and shapes all our emotions and actions. That universal motivational force is our human needs. These needs are the driving force that determines the quality of our lives, and ultimately, our destiny and they have been encoded into our nervous systems over centuries.
Broadly, there are six human needs that compel us forward in the quest to experience a life of meaning and purpose. These fundamental motivations include:
• SURVIVAL NEEDS – to survive we all need air to breathe, water to drink, food to eat and somewhere to shelter and sleep.
• SECURITY – we need to feel safe and protected in terms of our physical, mental and financial well-being.
• EMOTIONAL NEEDS – all of us need to feel love, belong and connect with others.
• ESTEEM – everyone needs to feel special and significant in some way.
• CONTRIBUTION – people cannot survive without others contributing in some way to their welfare. No one is an island and to be spiritually fulfilled we need to contribute to the happiness of others, as well as ourselves.
• GROWTH – human beings have a primal need to grow and develop their potential.
The psychologist, Abraham Maslow believed there was a hierarchy of human needs and the survival needs are the first priority. If people are starving or in grave danger, nothing else matters to them. But once survival needs are being satisfied, then our focus will shift to social, intellectual, emotional and spiritual needs.
The first step is to be clear about which of these human needs are your priority at any given time. Our needs will change as we journey through life. For some, day –to –day survival will be the priority. For others it could be emotional needs or spiritual growth. Clarity is the perquisite for personal change and understanding what we actually want from life and how to motivate ourselves to make it happen.
Once we are clear about our priorities, the second key motivational factor for success is having the confidence and self-believe to make it happen. Confidence is all about trust. The word “Confidence” is derived from the latin “Confidere”, which means having complete trust. This involves building trust in ourselves, trust in others and knowing that we can cope with whatever happens and become stronger. Confidence is not a quality we are born with, nor is it something that is set in stone. It is something we have to learn and continuously develop throughout our lives.
While Clarity and Confidence are vital factors for mastering motivation, Commitment is the biggest challenge and it is where many people fall down. The main reason why most new year resolutions are broken by the end of January is insufficient commitment. Even people with great clarity and lots of confidence find commitment difficult. Commitment is complex. It requires hard work, grit, determination, resilience and perseverance. Commitment is the engine that drives personal motivation. It is challenging because it is about taking action and “delivering as promised”.
It is important that we believe our lives matter and we keep motivated to make a real difference in the world. While each of us is unique, we are all wired in very much the same way. We all have the same fundamental needs that compel us forward to realise our potential and live our best life. Clarity, Confidence, Commitment, are the 3Cs that will drive your motivation.
BEYOND PERCEPTION’S REACH is a collection of brief thoughts and reflections on the complexities and challenges of life’s mysteries. The weekly blog will explore some of the questions and personal challenges we face in our uncertain and confusing world. How do we bring a bit more joy, purpose and fulfilment to our “one wild and precious lives”?
© Denis McBrinn 2021