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How To Be Sad by Valerie J. Deady

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Valerie J. Deady

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π‘¨π’„π’Œπ’π’π’˜π’π’†π’…π’ˆπ’Šπ’π’ˆ π’šπ’π’–π’“π’”π’†π’π’‡, π’Šπ’” 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒃𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒐𝒇 π’‰π’π’˜ 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒅.
Feeling heavy, comes from an intelligent place within. It vibrates right through your body, mind, and spirit, attempting to find ways to communicate with your whole being, and address negative emotions that are stunting your growth and slowing down your journey to becoming the best version of yourself.

If we took a moment out of our schedules and just sat with the deep despair, rooted in the place we swore we’d never go, how would it truly feel? For some, the thought of taking that moment to practice feeling anything other than positivity and busyness, is quite traumatic. For others this is a ritual which they have mastered over time and for those in between, they have dabbled with it, but external life tends to drive them away from focusing on themselves.

Our world, particularly in relation to social media, programmes us to keep going, keep smiling, stay positive and be happy. As a result, we become so distracted by what’s going on around us that we disconnect from what’s going on within us.

Many of us feel like we have no time to be stressed, sad or negative. As a result, we feel under pressure to pack those emotions up again and carry on. Perhaps, that is 𝘸𝘩𝘺 we have baggage. Instead of working deeply through our suffering, we just nod at it from the surface, put it all back in our bag and continue to carry the load on our shoulders. Still you must remember, you don’t have to walk 𝘸π˜ͺ𝘡𝘩 suffering, you just need to walk 𝘡𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘨𝘩 it. The light does not need to be the one at the end of the tunnel because the light comes from within you and what is the opposite to heavy? You got it, light.

Ever noticed how good it feels when you clear out that drawer or desk. At long last, we can see things again and the things we tidied, we finally gave ourselves the time to decide whether we need to keep them or to let them go. We should hold that very practice in mind, when we reconnect with ourselves when things start to feel heavy. Rather than saying we’ll deal with it another time, we all know it’s best to deal with anything that’s weighing us down as soon as possible. Just like that drawer, the more we avoid dealing with it, the messier it will get. If we continue to disregard the undesirable feelings, we will never feel what it is like to truly grow into our unique, healed, and wholesome selves.

Sitting with ourselves when times are hard is scary. When we have buried our dark parts so deep, it is hard to see them for what they are. However, facing up to our shadow selves is healing. Stand up, face it, and gently say, β€œwhat is it I need to do, to get through this?” The more we deeply acknowledge ourselves, the more present we become.

Just because the normal rules of society makes sure we stay in line, keep working, follow up on our responsibilities and to show up for our relationships, doesn’t mean we have to. What would happen to society if we decided to show up for ourselves?
Holding a compassionate, peaceful, and loving space during times of suffering, trauma or sadness is a necessity of human life, it is by no means a luxury. What if taking a moment out of society and stepping into yourself was the best thing you could do? Life will move on around you and that’s okay, let it move on around you. Step out for a while and whenever you are ready, you can move with life again.

When a child falls and begins to cry, we pick them up, we hold them, and we respond to their needs. We must continue to practice that love with ourselves, as if we are our own parent. When your emotions feel heavy, remember that’s not a bad thing. Your body, mind and spirit are just simply trying to pull you inwards to help you acknowledge what needs a little attention.

𝑻𝒐 𝒃𝒆 π’„π’π’π’•π’Šπ’π’–π’†π’……

Valerie J. Deady Β©

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