The festivities are over and the self-improvement season is almost upon us. Best selling author Orna Ross has developed a series designed to lead us into making 2012 our most creative year, ever. Here are her suggestions:
Kick off by taking out your freewriting notebook and answering the following ten questions. After each answer, ask ‘why?’ — and also freewrite your answer to that, always important, question.
1.What would you create if you let yourself run wild?
2.Which kind of risk is okay with you? Financial? Emotional? (And how do you stay safe while taking yourself out there?)
3.What should you change? What should you accept? Which is easier for you, change or acceptance?
4.How do you feel about failure?
5.How much money would you like to create (an actual figure please)?
6.What would you like people to say about you?
8.What if there was no past and no future? What would you do right now?
9.Should we trust you?
10.What will be the most important thing, in the end, for you?
Remember: After each answer, ask ‘why?’ and write the answer to that.
“A new year’s resolution goes in one year and out another”. Oscar Wilde.
A creative intention differs from a new year’s resolution in a number of ways:
- POSITIVE: New Year’s resolutions are often framed as negative injunctions (giving up, never again) and based on self-judgements and -criticism. Creative Intention is framed as a positive proposal, moving towards something you’d like to see more of in your life.
- ACKNOWLEDGES THE UNCONSCIOUS. New Year’s resolutions harness the conscious will only. Creative Intention acknowledges that our behaviours are driven by conscious and unconscious impulses.
- ACCEPTANCE: New Year’s resolutions see you as flawed, in need of fixing. Creative Intention recognises that all is unfolding as it should.
- UNDERWRITTEN WITH PLAN: new Year’s resolutions are made in a vacuum. Creative Intention requires a where-and-when plan.
- FLEXIBLE: New Year’s resolutions are determined and fixed, aiming to control. Creative Intention is willing and open, aiming to allow.
- LONG-LASTING: Perhaps the biggest difference is that a creative intention is not a self-flagellating, half-held, resolution that goes “in one year and out another” but a lifelong commitment.
So what will you create in 2012?
We’re all trained to notice the gap. Between what we have and what we want, between where we are and where we hope we’re going, between the person we are and who we’d like to be.
That’s where the New Year’s resolutions slip in, even though we know they don’t work. Through that gap. That hollow feeling of not doing, having or being enough.
How about this for an intention for 2012: to not mind the gap?
I’m not suggesting denial or pretending you have no wants. Just consciously shifting the focus a little.
Acknowledging that the gap is always there (as soon as you fill it with what you want now, you’ll begin the process of wanting something new), and putting more attention on what’s also there.
All the things and people and experiences you’ve already created. What you already do, who you already are. Much of which is pretty fine.
Supposing you started to put more attention on results and less on resolutions? What might happen?
A happy new year?