In this week’s column, the focus is shifting to rejection and how to deal with it. Rejection is a part of every writer’s life no matter whether you are a beginner or a bestselling author with 50 or 100 books published. It is something that is par for the course and these rejection tips and advice for writers should help you deal with it and keep going.
- https://authorunlimited.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-rejection-as-a-writer – 5 Ways to Deal with Rejection as a Writer: This post features 5 great ways to help deal with rejection. It starts off by explaining that rejection sucks, and I don’t disagree with that. You can deal with it and move on though, and the five tips provided should help. The first one can be difficult because no matter how hard we try, rejection always feels personal. Whether you agree with the rejection tips and advice offered or not, the main thing to take away is to pick yourself up and keep going.
- https://nybookeditors.com/2017/05/tips-dealing-inevitable-rejection/ – Tips for Dealing with Inevitable Rejection: The keyword in this post’s title is inevitable. It happens to everyone and in the end it can often help to make you a better writer. There are 7 tips in this article including the fact that not everyone will love or get your writing. If you ever read the reviews on hugely popular books and even the classics, you’ll see some 1 star reviews. It happens. One of the big things with dealing with rejection is learning to take criticism and there are some great points in this section. Take some time out and remind yourself why you love writing. And finally, look at rejection as a means of learning.
- https://www.scottishbooktrust.com/writing-and-authors/getting-published/advice-for-dealing-with-rejection – Getting Published: Advice for Dealing with Rejection: As this article states, rejection is a huge part of the writing life. This post shares 10 tips to help you keep going. It takes real courage to put your work out there in the first place so rejection or not, you need to celebrate the success of accomplishment. Take the feedback you receive on board. It might sting on the first read, but leave it a day or two and read it again with fresh eyes and an open mind. Take from it what makes sense. Don’t ever stop writing and if you can form a thick skin, you’ll need it. Make connections in the writing world too. No one else will understand what you’re going through.
- https://www.thecreativepenn.com/2017/03/30/bulletproof-writer/ – The Bulletproof Writer: How to Deal with Rejection: This post features some rejection tips from Michael Alvear on how to handle the sting in a more positive way. There is some great advice in this article including focusing on your mindset and the biggest critic we all have which is ourselves. Getting clear about why you write is important too and don’t ever let rejection take your enjoyment or love of writing away.
- https://writers.com/dealing-with-rejection-as-a-writer – Dealing with Rejection as a Writer: 12 Tips to Get Through: This rejection tips are great and they make sense. Allowing yourself the time to feel sad or frustrated is important and something that should be done. Afterall, you’ve poured months if not years of your life into creating your novel. Try not to take rejection personally, there can be so many reasons for it and none of them are about you. The market might not be right, the market might be flooded with similar stories, the editor or publisher is not a good fit for you, and so on. Learn from criticism and rejection and hone your skills. Make connections with other writers and always remember that rejection is not the end of the world. Many famous authors were rejected time and time again before they got their big break.
- https://writersrelief.com/writers-dealing-with-rejection/ – Rejection Tool Kit for Writers: Your Secret Weapon against Rejection: This article talks about preparing for rejection as a writer before it looks at providing advice on how to tackle it. There are some famous quotes from agents and editors about rejection along with plenty of resources for further reading.
- https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-handle-rejection-6_b_9672890 – How to Handle Rejection: 6 Ways Writers can Cope and Grow: This article was published on the HuffPost and has some great rejection tips and advice. From explaining why rejection sucks to allowing yourself to feel disappointed. There’s even some advice on how to try and get rejected and how to love every rejection you get. Of course, this is reverse psychology and the more rejections you get, the more your writing is out there being read. It’s only a matter of time before it lands on the desk of someone who loves it.
- https://thewritepractice.com/rejection-truth/ – The Truth about Rejection Newbie Writers Won’t Admit: This last article deals with rejection tips and advice for new writers and while it does explain that rejection hurts and is hard to deal with there are some positives to take from it. You need to stop looking at rejection as failure and start seeing the lessons that can be learned. Rejection can help you to improve your craft and make you look at your manuscript again. You might see places where it could be reworked and made better. Perhaps an agent didn’t connect with your characters but loved your story. This is a great because you can look at your characters, see what makes them unlikeable or why readers don’t connect with them and fix it. You wouldn’t be able to do that without having the rejection and feedback first.
As you can see, there really is a lot to learn from rejections and while they hurt and sting, they do have their positives as well when we learn to see them. I hope you enjoyed reading all the rejection tips and advice this week and if there is a top you’d like to see covered, get in touch and I will see what I can do.
(c) Amanda J Evans